How to Find a True Friend
How to Find a True Friend:Finding a good friend is like finding a needle in a haystack. If a person has one really good friend in his or her lifetime, he or she is really fortunate. I’m not referring to a person’s marriage mate who definitely should be a person’s best friend. I’m referring to someone who has proven to be a really true friend void of any romantic interest. I envy persons who have actually had or have right now more than one really good friend.
To find a good friend you must be a good friend. That is rule number one. This does require letting yourself be a little vulnerable at times. For instance, you may have to take the first step in initiating a friendship. You might consider this ’sticking your neck out’ because it’s true you may not get the response you are looking for and get you neck ‘chopped off’ proverbially speaking. But if you keep trying eventually, you will find someone that can be considered trustworthy and a friend. Sharing something with someone is the best way to open the door to a friendship. I remember when I attended school, a had a good friend that made sure if there was anything in her lunch box I wanted I could have it. I likewise reciprocated and we became really good friends. A person may also want to meet friends in his or her congregation. Hopefully, in this setting, you’ll find not only a good friend but someone you can have a long term friendship with. Sometimes grade school and high school friendships endure but a friendship based on something as important as one’s relationship with our Creator is bound to have a more lasting impact. Of course, these types of friendships are more difficult to obtain usually. The old adage ‘all that glitters is not gold’ may apply to one’s you meet in the congregation also but at least you may have some reputable older persons that can give you a little insight as to whether someone you are thinking about becoming friends with is really a friend. Naturally, it would not be reasonable to expect someone to bad mouth a potential prospect that you have for a friend. But there will be tell-tell signs, older ones will be more than happer to give you such as their opinion about whether the person is kind, helpful, and caring. If you hear these type of remarks about a person you want to make a friend with then pursue immediately. Of course, you may not be looking for a kind, caring person as a friend. This is sad and may not be too smart.
Anyway, don’t ignore negative remarks people may make about the person you want to be your friend. If more that one person says they are rude, won’t listen, and selfish, you might want to believe it and avoid this person at least from becoming on the top of your list of potential friends.
Be a friend by being kind but don’t let people use you. No one likes a person who is a push over. Have reasonable guidelines for yourself as to how far you will go to obtain anyone’s friendship because they are going to be blessed to get a friend like you in return.
