Loving Relationships – Birth of Love
Loving relationships not just between two people who were actively involved. Loving relationships are those relationships between couples, families, brothers, sisters, parents and children, etc. What a loving relationship you want? We all have different views of love. What may feel like loving one person can not feel loving someone else, but all too often we place our own perceptions and judgments about others. Some expressions of love are universal, but many more are quite personal. How do you define love? What feels love thee?
Part of being in a loving relationship means that we must accept the other person as he or she is, and not seek to change him / her. This does not mean that you like everything about the other person, but to accept it without a trial. It is usually easier to do in any relationship until problems arise, and the road becomes rocky. This is true for all loving relationships, because, as we spend more time with another person, and we grow and change our sensitivity to the faults we see that the person has become harder to ignore. Relationships usually take place in stages. First, we see only the dignity of each other, we see only the shortcomings of each other if we get through this stage, we can see each other who we really and truly be friends. Parents often speak different stages of their children’s lives that they love their child, but they do not like them very much. It is hard to feel love, when we see or experience the behavior that is challenging and quite disgusting. To be in a loving relationship, but we must find ways to love, even if it is not easy. This does not mean that we should ignore or deny hazardous or harmful behavior, then we must find ways to address these behaviors in ways that love, respect and compassion.
In order to focus on what it means to be in love relationships, I find it useful to use this acronym: sincere
H – Hear and listen to your heart — to seek each other’s loving intentions. Do not judge. None of us are that perfect that someone else can judge us harshly as well. If we look for shortcomings and negative, we will certainly find them. If we look at the positive and loving quality, we will just find those, too.
E – emotional vulnerability. When we reached the wall, to protect us from the pain, the same wall will also keep us feel joy, pleasure and intimacy. When we deal with love, respect and compassion, we are open and receptive both to give and receive love.
- Admission: with love to people in our lives means that we stop judging them. We can not please everybody, but we must learn to accept people who they are and not who we want them or think they should be, etc. Beauty truly loving relationship is that in an environment of love and acceptance, we will grow and prosper. In relationships fraught with tension and judgments, we shrink, and fear grow.
R – Respect We must respect ourselves, and then look for something that we respect those whom we love. If we look at the qualities that are valuable and useful, and therefore deserve respect, our hearts are open, and we can see the good in them. If we judge and criticize, and see only what’s wrong and what we do not like, then we undermine the very relationships that we say that we want to develop. What qualities do you choose to focus on the people who matter most to you?
T – Trust: We must develop trust in our relationship. This means that we must act honestly. While we can not control how other people behave or act, we can decide how we want to handle their behaviors, and belief in our ability to cope effectively when their behavior is less than stellar. In love relationships we expect to trust each other to be loving, compassionate, respectful and want what is best for each other. Because we are human, and we will make mistakes, working on problems believing that we are working for our benefit is a prerequisite.
F – Feel with your heart: do not judge: I love to listen to your heart, feel with your heart will help you to pay attention to the inner voice and pay attention to how you feel. We know way down deep inside, when something feels love, respect and compassion, and when it is not. To be in a loving relationship, means that you can recognize when something feels uncomfortable, bad, heavy, and so on, until to continue to respect your feelings enough to talk! This connection to the loving communion and vulnerability: the vital importance for all loving relationships!
E – Evolve and “Blossoms”: when you feel loved, supported and approved, you can evolve to become the person you were meant to be. You have gifts that you bring into your relationship. You yourself for free! When you feel all better and more loving to yourself, you will be more to allow gifts to be expressed and shared. When you are with people who love, accept and respect you for who you are, you will be able to develop and grow even more, and you can feel yourself and your world to open and expand. Take a deep breath and let this truth resonate within you!
L – laughter! Life is serious, and we must do to alleviate the time and laugh with each other and at ourselves. As the saying goes: we do not stop laughing because we grow old, we grow old because they stop laughing. Let your spirit soar, and your heart take wings: Laugh with those whom you love loudly and often!
T – to speak openly and with love. Remember to always speak with love, respect and compassion, and let the people you love and want to love I know how you feel. Share your loving thoughts and feelings, breathe deeply and know that as long as you’re honest and compassionate, loving your intentions can be seen and heard.
Love is beautiful and necessary part of our lives. When we feel loved, or love, we discover a sense of easy, free, warm and cozy, as well as all his other wonderful descriptive adjectives. All relationships, however, require work, and our time, attention and patience, so that they can grow and prosper. Our love relationship is really a labor of love and hope, as you bring your own sincere attention to your life, you’ll feel more loving and loved.
